Being Happy

During an elegant welcoming reception for the new Director of Marketing of an company, his spouse was asked a question,

"Does your spouse make you happy?"

Her husband the new Director, who was at her side, felt secure knowing that his spouse would answer affirmatively.

Nevertheless, to his and the others' surprise, she simply replied:

“No, he doesn't make me happy...”

The room became uncomfortably silent, the husband was petrified.

He couldn't believe what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion.

To the amazement of her husband and of everyone, she simply placed enigmatically on her head an elegant black silk scarf and continued:

No, he doesn't make me happy (pause)   I AM HAPPY.

The fact that I am happy or not, do not depend on him, but on me.

I am the only person upon which my happiness depends.

I make the choice to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life.

If my happiness were to depend on other people, on other things or circumstances on the face of this earth, I would be in serious trouble!

Everything that exists in this life changes continually: humans, wealth, my body, the climate, pleasures, etc. I could enumerate an infinite list

Over my life I have learned a couple of things:

It's not the responsibility of my spouse to make me happy...

He also has his experiences or circumstances.

I love him and he loves me, often in spite of his circumstances and of mine.

I decide to be happy and the rest is a matter of experiences or circumstances; like helping, and understanding, accepting, listening, consoling; and with my spouse, I have lived and practiced this many times.

He changes, I change, the environment changes, everything changes;

Having forgiveness and true love, and observing these changes that can be, big or little, but always happen, we must face them with the love that exists in each one of us. If the two of us love and forgive each other, the changes will only be experiences or circumstances that enrich us and give us strength. Otherwise we would only be living together.

For some, divorce is the only solution; (in reality it is the easiest)

To truly love is difficult. It is to forgive unconditionally, to live, to take the experiences or circumstances as they are, facing them together and being happy with conviction.

There are those who say: I cannot be happy because I am sick, because I have no money, because it's too cold, because they insulted me, because someone stopped loving me, because someone didn't appreciate me!

But what you don't know is that you can be happy even though you are sick, whether it is too hot, whether you have money or not, whether someone has insulted you or someone didn't love you, or hasn't valued you.

BEING HAPPY is an attitude about life and each one of us must decide !

BEING HAPPY, depends on you !

This was a good speech by the wife. But the happiness she was referring to was the state of mind. To some extent she is right when she says that you are the author of your happiness and it has to stem from within you, but true happiness can manifest only when you are at “Peace with yourself”. There are plenty of factors that can influence you but prayers and meditation is the foremost influencing factor for the elusive peace. True Peace can only come from a pure heart. "Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God". Mathew 5:8. For that, you ought to train yourselves to have pure thoughts, speak pure words and do works that can make you pure. It's not easy and never was, but good things were never meant to be so.

For believers in Jesus Christ, you have His first and great commandment for being at “Peace with yourself”: - "Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind" His second commandment is "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. (Mathew 22: 37-39). It won’t be easy with all your earthly distractions? But make the effort and IT WILL NOT BE IN VAIN.